Why didn’t Zahra* show up for her speech therapy? She had received hearing aids through a special donation to the project and an agreement had been made with the mother that she would bring her daughter to therapy weekly.
At two and a half years old Zahra had great capacity to develop and learn! The Disabled Afghan Refugees Project (DARP) social workers were irritated. Phone calls with the mother didn’t lead to any success. Finally they decided to visit the family and talk face to face.
When visiting the home the father was not there. The social workers explained in more detail that Zahra had great potential and would learn fast if she got the input of a speech therapist. However, if the family would not be willing to change, DARP would have to reassess the agreement. Soon it became clear that the mother was more than willing to bring her girl to therapy, but her husband didn’t see the need for it. The social workers offered to talk to him. However through the clear explanations and arguments the social workers had provided, the mother herself found confidence to talk to her husband herself.
A week later Zahra’s mother called to arrange an appointment: “My husband has agreed – and I’m happy even to three time a week if possible!”
Once more we realised the need to take the whole family setting into account. Once the family is on board, the mothers have more confidence and in turn the children can truly flourish.